This moment N O W

Everyday is a new chapter in my life; an opportunity for a fresh start.  I am starting to really understand what it means to “live in the now:”  it is knowing the past cannot be changed and the future is fragile and full of uncertainities.  This is common knowledge that comes with tons of cliche’ mottos, but it takes a while to actually get your head wrapped around it all.  The fleeting second in which we currently exist, and death, are the only two things which seem to be solid, concretely real.  

When your past memories repeat in your mind as they so often do, your present self begins slipping away.  But without memories, you feel like you would forget who you are, because it all makes up who you are, right?  Well, as a thought, consider this.
Events in life effect you, no doubt, but at the center of who you are I believe there is a personality you came into life with; a core-self, despite experiences.  When you were a child, though you had little memories to base your life off of, you still had strong defining characteristics; and you were perhaps more purely yourself than you are now.

Events in life may even make us or sway us to stray away from this natural self, though congruently they help us grow and expand.  We could try on a million different personas and adapt ourself to one that is the absolute opposite of our natural self, and even be that different person for our entire life.  If that were the case though, perhaps we would be on the familiar journey of trying to “find ourself.”  If you are on such a journey, try acting without restraints or inhibitions, like you did as a child, and see if you feel more of who you really are, not pretending to be anyone else.  It may just be that easy to self-actualize, and likewise, that difficult.

Memories change everytime we re-remember them, the future is inconsistent until it arrives, therefore it is not a certainty.  Now, is all we have, and all we really ever will have.
So, let go of anxiety, let go of regrets, let go of fears.  Become Free.

Everyday, every moment, is a new start; make it into exactly what you want, create your perfect reality.
And thank the Universe for the marvelous fraction of a second in which we are blessed enough to exist within.

Oddly,

Oceana

 

 

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Change a Life; it Will Change Your Life

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Dan, my dear friend, is the man who I am currently paying rent for, in a nice, new apartment. He used to live in the Kibera slums, in the worst conditions imaginable; in a house made of dirt and cardboard, flooding when the rains come, with no toilet, a pathway of mud and feces, no electricity, no safety. Now he lives in a beautiful, clean area, with all those commodities he didn’t have before.
I will never, ever, forget the moment I first showed him his new place, freshly furnished and officially his. He was crying and smiling, saying thank you over and over. Though it wasn’t a very big space, he wasn’t concerned, “What more could a man need?” He said. He was the most genuinely good-hearted person I met in Kenya, helping so many people though he had so little. I believe strongly that good things should happen to good people. I feel so blessed to be able to help him in this way.

It brought me to tears this morning when I got an email from.
He wrote me saying, “I enjoy my new house, it has changed my life and all thanks to you dear for appearing like an Angel in my life. I will all be grateful in all of my life, and I say it from the bottom of my heart. No one has ever done this for me. You are very special. I want to thank you so so much for what you are doing for me .Thank you for you kind heart and may God richly bless you. Now that you are paying me the house rent, Im happy.”

THIS IS WHY I DO WHAT I DO. THIS IS WHY I PUT IN THE ENERGY AND EFFORT TO HELP OTHERS. THIS IS WHY I PUT ALL OF MY MONEY TOWARDS MAKING A DIFFERENCE. THIS GRATITUDE RIGHT HERE, THIS IS WHAT I LIVE FOR.

Change a life, it will change your life.

Oddly,

Oceana

Uninhibited

People say if they had cancer or a terminal disease they then would do all the crazy things in life that they have always wanted to do, because hey, you don’t know which day is going to be your last anyways (as if you ever know).

What a tragic thing that is to say, because the reality of it is, if you had a disease like that you would be too sick to do much of anything. You would look back on your days of health and wish more than anything that you could go back in time and actually live all those exhilarating experiences. You would have the profound realization that you only have one, yes o   n   e, life, and now it could possibly be too late.

So, with that said, don’t just favor the cliché motto “live everyday like its your last”, make it a reality. And I assure you, this reality is entirely possible. No, you might not get to go skydiving everyday, but there are practical things you can do. Let go of inhibitions; dance and sing to whatever songs of your choice whenever and where ever you please, its an easy way to begin not caring what others think of you. Always speak your mind, unless it could hurt someone, just say what needs to be said, you won’t regret it. Don’t hold on to anything, all things that are supposed to be in your life will come and stay without effort, and holding on only stunts your progress. Be optimistic, because seeing the good in things will only reap you benefits and send good energy your way; you attract what thoughts you put out into the world. Love yourself, like truly just adore yourself, and there are unending reasons on why you should do this.

Do what ever the hell you want to do, do what truly makes your soul happy, just never let go of your pursuit towards happiness.  Start today.  Learn from the past, plan for the future, but now is the only time for action.

Oddly,

Oceana

Complexities of the mind

It’s early morning, early enough that the sun has yet to rise
I am contemplating life and pondering about what this day is going to be like
Introspection of the mind us creative creatures carry around
Complexities synchronized with the cylinder rings protruding from the ground
An average day, that’s what I have to expect
But easily, it could be much more… or much less
It’s a funny thing, a funny thing for me to actually say
I’m averaging a total of like, 6000 thousand days
All in order so I can estimate what is going to be forward
Though I know nothing of which I’m actually moving toward
This could be the worst day for me, or the best, in comparison to immediate memories
But no matter which way it goes, in this moment,
The NOW,
I’ll count my blessings as I breathe
For someday I will be silently decaying in the earth
I will become nutrients, from which something will new rebirth
Mm, breathe in,
There is no better air than at 6 in the morning
A time of life, half day and half night, the median, the harmony, the in-between
Breathe out,
What a profound thing called everyday life
A daily processing, a mental memorization and exercise
It repeats again and again
Each new second though, not a first, a bit different
Each time around at least one new thing will be learned,
And a whipser from the cosmos, this place in the universe,
This knowlege I give
You have earned.

Oddly,

Oceana

Universal Happiness pt. 2

There is a profound simplicity in a genuine smile.  There is a sort of magic in the sound of laughter.  We innately relate and understand these two things to be our exterior expressions and reflection of our inner joyous feelings.  Pure, beautiful, universally human.  Smiles, laughter, these things become contagious; and most naturally it is the interaction with other people who cause these reactions to arise from within us.  This is because these two things are about human connection: “Contrary to folk wisdom, most laughter is not about humor, it is about relationships between people (www.nbcnews.com).”   Though other things in life are able to make us feel happy, only other people seem to make us laugh and smile; only other people cause us to embody the image of happiness.

Though we live in an era of widespread social connections – via the internet – this is not actual interaction.  Ironically, we are feeling more isolated than ever before.   In a book on social psychology, the author made this report: “Over the last half-century, there has been a steady decline in nearly all things social apart from social media… We volunteer less, participate in fewer social groups, and entertain people in our homes less than we used to.   To me the most troubling statistics focus on our friendships… One out of every four of us is walking around with no one to share our lives with.  Being social makes our lives better.  Yet every indication is that we are getting less social, not more (Matthew D. Lieberman, pgs. 248, 249).”  People have been reduced to icons on a computer screen and our laughter has been reduced to “lol.”

We are in an era of time which finally extinguishes the very word “isolation;” its meaning is simply impossible. The vastest distances of seas do not even destroy the possible connections between humans anymore; planes and boats have overcome such obstacles… Now, it is only the screens in front of our faces and the items we distract ourselves with which can simulate separation.  We have the ability to now create chains of support – locally and internationally, if we choose to reconnect.  If we do so, we will see that there is not much of a difference between us and strangers, between these strangers and the people we know – there are underlying possibilities of friendships waiting to emerge, in every smile.

 

Oddly,

Oceana

 

Happiness: The Universal Search pt. 1

Breaking the late-evening quietness, the question rose from me. “What do you want out of life, ultimately?”  It almost felt careless to ask, for I wasn’t truly curious.  I already knew what answer to expect.  It was far beyond a cliché by this point. 
            In response, she opened her mouth, paused, then said, “To be happy, of course.”  It was the repeated answer I had heard from others, over and over, freshly spoken.  And yet, the unifying source of desire still intrigued a juvenile part of my mind.
            “So, it’s a destination?  As in, a goal?  How will you know when you’ve accomplished it?”  My mind drifted to the words Nirvana, as happiness being a state of mind achieved, and Heaven, as it a place to be achieved.      
            She looked curiously at me as I continued this inquisition, then took a moment to reflect.  “It’s more so just a feeling…  I think.” 
            “Then wouldn’t it come and go?  Wouldn’t it be inconsistent and entirely circumstantial?”  Contradictions began arising.   
             With a sigh of slight annoyance, she turned away.  “I’m really not sure.  I mean, yeah I guess.”  I could tell this seemed as unimportant to her as it sounded.
            “So, just to feel happy as much as possible.”  I concluded, to myself.
            She nodded, and the sleepy silence continued.


Releases of endorphins, oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin.  Happiness, being a defined emotion, then simply becomes a chemical reaction we’re seeking for.  The entwinement of the “pleasure principle” and our reward system.  Is it only this, our biological nature, which seeks, strives, and steers us with motivation for satisfaction?  Is the hedonistic approach ultimately correct?  Are things actually “good” based on if they release these chemicals or not?  And should we seek out those things to be the path of fulfillment we take?

At first glance, it may appear to be this way.  But, as we also know, human life, drive, and desire is much more complex than this.  We constantly defy normal behavior in the animal kingdom and display evolved characteristics, such as self-control:  “The sages instructed us not to follow our base instincts for sensual pleasures and material possessions, but rather our higher potential for compassion and moderation. This philosophy is found in both East and West, and in both secular and religious traditions (pg. 83, http://unsdsn.org/).”  Compassion, which by definition is the desire to help others, was said to be important in our pursuit of happiness, as well as moderation – which is the opposite of excess –  because they help us live “the right kind of life.” I do believe we need to live by these two key words in order to find such virtue.

Oddly,

Oceana

Surreal Reality

A trillion stars, 
Fragmented shimmers of light beaming down onto me
I fly, so far, into the light show
Instantly, becoming one with the cosmos; 
Earth and spirituality
A weightless soul, 
A body bounded by gravity

A billion thoughts, 
Fragmented pictures I see dancing all around me
I fall, curiosity caught, down into rabbit hole
Gradually, my ego explodes; 
The freedom of every mentality 
An endless mind, 
A body confined by this insane sanity

A million moments,
Fragmented memories leaking subconsciously out of me
I spin, forwards, I spin, backwards, into time 
Simply, the past and the future are not aligned; 
No beginning, no end: my friend, death is rebirth, not a fatality
An effortless heart, 
A body always a part of the present reality

Oddly,

Oceana